Life is what happens... When you're busy making other plans....

Totally! I so totally agree with this. Ok now, as always, the title and the content of this post might not be in too much of a sync to some of the very few readers of my blogs... but anyways... does is really matter.... I loved the phrase and so instead of putting it as a status message, I made it a title of my blog, just so that I can look at it forever. 

Well, coming back to business, "life really IS what happens when you're busy making other plans". I don't know, how many people out there are planning to start something, but just aren't able to bring themselves to do that. 

I for instance, used be a voracious reader, ok not voracious but atleast I used to love reading a lot, so much so, that I actually inspired someone, who otherwise wouldn't wanna read even a 7 page booklet, today owns a collection of books. :) Well, I know, I can be an inspiration! 

But today, I go on and on planning to start reading a book, but just cannot do it. I console myself by sayin, "ah, you've had a long day at work, tomorrow is working again, catch some sleep (not that I work 12 hours a day or am sleep deprived)! 

I truly admire, adore, revere people who have a control over themselves, have a strong will power and most of all, once they have planned to do something, they by and large stick to it. But if it's true that life happens when we're busy planning out things, should we just give up on planning??

I guess for people like me, we really should, instead of wasting an hour in thinking in the mind, and jotting things down and paper and never revert to that page again, we should just let it be. the moment your brain says, start reading, poof !!! pick up any god damn book/magazine, even a newspaper is good and read. Planning to start jogging ??? Do not add the number of hours you "think" you need to sleep, and add them to your sleeping time while setting the alarm. Do not tell yourself, "I'll start it from 1st of next month" trust me that next month would never come. Just see what time fits the best into your work schedule and get up from the next day at that very time, no matter what time you go to bed.

Ok, I know I am getting a bit personal here in giving all these examples, but I know for sure, that I am not the only odd one out amongst the homo sapiens. They're plenty of people out there, just like me. My suggestion to my own self and to all those others like me: look around, get inspired by people who plan and act and achieve and iff you cannot be like them, then give up your love to plan and organize about what you should do and what you would do. Go on, do something, and may be then mark an entry in that diary and rename the head from "TO DO" to "What I Did". May be things can be done in a much better way if they are well planned, but as they say, "something is better than nothing", so if you're the types who pretends to take action by mare act of planning and then give it up, please, get up, start up, get into the flow and once you get habitual may be then plan it out to improvise.

Well to think of it, I guess, as I am writing this post,  I am back to planning. "Planning not to plan my actions" :) But I guess it's fine, that's why they say, "Life's like that..." 

If only…..

• laws governed the heart; it would have been so much more organized and wouldn’t wander around   
• the brain would have stopped responding to things words we don’t want to hear, we would have fought with our dear ones a lot lesser in life
• one dreamt only what could be real, lesser hopes would have been shattered
• there was no concept of tears, girls would have felt lesser fragile
• if there was no such word as emotions, the productivity at work would have been so much higher
• things were free, people would have ran a lot lesser after money
• success to each one meant having someone who cares about you, failure would have lost its significance
• if only men were half as patient as women, relationships would have been so much smoother and happier

• life was a work of fiction; we could have always given it a happy ending
• there were no extremes, choosing a middle path would have been so much easier
• luxurious life was given to everyone on rotation basis, world would have been a place without the work “envy”
• there was a time machine that had scenario analysis, one would have forever chosen what is best for oneself
• life was an episode of friends, one wouldn’t have needed facebook 

Please feel free to add as many as you want to the list..... :)

To make you feel......

When the rain is blowing in your face 

And the whole world is on your case 

I would offer you a warm embrace 

To make you feel my love 

When the evening shadows and the stars appear 

And there is no one to dry your tears 

I could hold you for a million years 

To make you feel my love 

I know you haven't made your mind up yet 

But I would never do you wrong 

I've known it from the moment that we met 

No doubt in my mind where you belong 

I'd go hungry, I'd go blind for you 

I'd go crawling down the aisle for you 

There ain't nothing that I wouldn't do 

To make you feel my love 

The storms are raging on a rolling sea 

Down the highway of regret 

The winds of change are blowing wild and free 

But you ain't seen nothing like me yet 

There ain't nothing that I wouldn't do 

Go to the ends of the earth for you 

Make you happy, make your dreams come true 

To make you feel my love 

One of the friends make me hear this song by Garth Brooks. It absolutely touches your soul. No doubt the music is very soothing and relaxing. But its the lyrics that stole my heart. 

This is what perhaps love to me is. I see so many blogs, movies, stories based on this theme, "what is love", "does it even exist". Well I guess it is person dependent. It is totally upto one's discretion, whether you want it to exist or not. If you do want to be in love, would exist in some way or the other. 

There are many heart broken people who would argue against this statement, but then, I want to tell them, that if someone you loves, left you, and you still thinking about them, you still want them, or may be somebody else in your life again, it means somewhere deep inside, you still believe in love.

Like the song says, "When the rain is blowing in your face, And the whole world is on your case, I would offer you a warm embrace ".... it actually is enough to make one feel your love. 

It's all about the present.....

"Aage bhi jaane na tu, peeche bhi jaane na tu... Jo bhi hai, bas yahi ek pal hai....." The relevance of these lines is increasing day by day.

I actually started writing this 2 months back, but today when I suddenly came across this in my drafts, I can see it is as relevant today as it was at that time. I am currently in a city, where not many people of my age enjoy being. Modes of entertainment are practically non-existent. And all we do out here is crib about how happy we were in other places, and how happy we would be once we leave this place.

But, in life we really do not have the option of going back to the past, or fast forwarding our lives to our imaginary future. We have to live the course of life, experience the present and move forward. The lesser we get attached to the present, the easier it would be to let go of past, and not worry about the future.

I hear my colleagues say that they miss their old friends. And I want to tell them, yes sure! you should miss them, but why are you depriving yourself from making new and may be better friends here. That constant thirst for getting something more than we have today, makes our today look so much worse than it actually is.
That's why they say, "In retrospect, everything seems much better than it was at that time".

But what I want to feel now is a perfect present, that would look as great, when I think of it in the future as it is now. And if it not that so perfect, atleast I can perceive it to be and let my self be happy and just live each moment as best as I can !!!

The First Impression !

"You never get a second chance to make a first impression" 

I was about to join my first job ever and the more I thought about my joining, the more it was about making that perfect "first impression". You know that nervousness, that anxiety that surrounds you when you are about to venture into something new, something different...you don't want to make any mistakes. 

Its been exactly a month since I joined, an eventful month indeed. So much has changed, yet so much is exactly the same. I have un-learnt and re-learnt few things as well. But one thing I know today for sure is that "first impression is never the last impression. For me it has changed practically for every individual I had met in this one month. 

First impression is never about what a person actually is, it is always about your perception of that person. Any human is such complex a character that the ones that are so very close to him, even they fail to understand him at times. Humans are designed to be a complicated mix of emotions, feelings and characteristics. They are bound  to follow a random behavioral curve. How can then, we be so quick with our judgement about a person, and at times take decisions based on those quick and at times false intuitions. 

Infact most of the times, we form this impression, by comparing the other person with our own self. the farther he is from our own ways and means of evaluating things, the lower is the impression. 

Well all this doesn't really mean that stop forming any image of a person in your mind in the first meeting itself, that's just so inevitable. But yes, we must give enough space and chances to a person to reform that image and show his true self, that might just be far more better than what you think he was!!!

Conversing with oneself....

I am unsure about me being an introvert. But people who are close to me, believe I m not an extrovert. But I along with those people mutually agree that it is very easy for me to express myself. If not verbally then through my facial expression.

While I m trying to figure out what exactly I want to write on convey through this blog, I am becoming aware of the fact that how easy it to write about others, and much more easier to comment on situations. But when you try to share something about your own identity, then its not an easy riddle to solve. More so because most of the time you are unsure, how much do you exactly want to share. What is that thresh hold limit beyond which you would stop.

Anyways, let's back to the point where I started deviating. I believe a person who is very expressive is also the one who is mostly in a fix. This is so because someone who is not used to talking about his feelings a lot, does not feel the need to do that very often. But people who want to share their feelings, are fighting back within themselves. Whom to talk to, how much to share, how to convey, what to not to say. Life is so much easier where there is no need to express, to talk, to share, when people can simply keep everything to themselves and move on. When they are not able to vent out their feelings they feel frustrated,and helpless. It is this very need that rears "expectations". The more you need people, the more you expect people to be around, to be understanding, to be supportive. And bang! you enter the vicious circle....the more your expect, more likely are your chances of getting hurt. The more you get hurt, the sadder you feel, and then..... "YOU NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO" , whom you expect to be understanding and supportive .... what the hell... introverts are truly divine souls....much more free from hassles of expectations and expressions. 

I wonder why are extroverts perceived to be better than the introverts. Why can we find links on search engines that read....."How to Go From Introvert to Extrovert."

In fact, it is rightly being said, "For an introvert his environment is himself and can never be subject to startling or unforeseen change." 

I don't know if all those who would read this would actually see any meaning or purpose in this post....but what the hell, I am simply expressing the randomness of my mind :P 

Great Expectations !!!

Oh God! This boy never wants to study. All he wants in life is to play and eat and sleep. When will you do your homework beta, and Monday se unit test start hain, when will you study for them. Have you even decided what do you want to become in life. Who told you Commerce is good, you must take up Science. This is that phrase that we all have heard throughout our schooling life. Our parents always believed that we want to do everything in life but study. We were compared with our siblings and cousins and uncles and friends and dad's friend's son and the list goes on. It seemed as if every other human on this earth is hell more intelligent than us.

Then we grow up, we give entrance exams to numerous colleges for numerous courses, about each of which we are equally clueless. Who the hell can distinguish Computer from IT from Electronics from Electrical & Communications anyways. Whether or not we know anything about our subjects is immaterial. All that matters is that we got through a good college. And then all of a sudden we become the jewel of the family. All we hear from our relatives is, "yeh toh bachpan se he intelligent tha", "iska toh ho he jaana tha admission", and we are like "Oh really, did you not have an opposite opinion about me few months back" and worst of all, "beta ab chintu bhi 10th mein hai, we'll send him to you, you are going to counsel him regarding his career options, tell him which coaching classes to join, which center to go to, what is the best time to take classes, weekdays or weekend, which bus to take to, which foot to step out first while boarding the bus......... bla bla bla". This last one is the best, because at that time only thought that occurs to our mind is, "Dude, I am still unsure about my future, and my getting into a college was not planned, it was my luck that 90% of the students who are more or atleast equally qualified, worked equally hard simply could not make it during those 2 and a half hours." 

And then the anxious parents are discussing amongst themselves, "We do not pressurize our children.We let them go at their own pace".Oh yeah, sending your kids to 1000 unknown people for counseling, eating their brains, the moment they start watching TV, asking them not to go out to play and most irritatingly, "casually" telling them stories of all the cousins and cousin's cousin's friends who made it into "some" college. Is it NOT pressurizing ? Huh, I do not think so. This is the worst kind of mental torture. It is much better to directly ask the child to be more disciplined and work hard. Rather than 24*7 comparing him with anonymous, irrelevant, immaterial figures. 

Hey, I am not saying that this happens with each one of us, but I am sure we all have experienced such behaviors directly or indirectly at some point in time. There is no particular reason for me writing this, nor is there a definite moral of the story. But I do believe, we should let children decide things on their own. Be there for help, to guide, to safeguard, to befriend them, to warn them. But in no capacity try and restrict their line of thought by superimposing that of yours. Never push them into something, because if at all they be unsatisfied with their lives, they will have only you to be blamed.