It's all about the present.....

"Aage bhi jaane na tu, peeche bhi jaane na tu... Jo bhi hai, bas yahi ek pal hai....." The relevance of these lines is increasing day by day.

I actually started writing this 2 months back, but today when I suddenly came across this in my drafts, I can see it is as relevant today as it was at that time. I am currently in a city, where not many people of my age enjoy being. Modes of entertainment are practically non-existent. And all we do out here is crib about how happy we were in other places, and how happy we would be once we leave this place.

But, in life we really do not have the option of going back to the past, or fast forwarding our lives to our imaginary future. We have to live the course of life, experience the present and move forward. The lesser we get attached to the present, the easier it would be to let go of past, and not worry about the future.

I hear my colleagues say that they miss their old friends. And I want to tell them, yes sure! you should miss them, but why are you depriving yourself from making new and may be better friends here. That constant thirst for getting something more than we have today, makes our today look so much worse than it actually is.
That's why they say, "In retrospect, everything seems much better than it was at that time".

But what I want to feel now is a perfect present, that would look as great, when I think of it in the future as it is now. And if it not that so perfect, atleast I can perceive it to be and let my self be happy and just live each moment as best as I can !!!

The First Impression !

"You never get a second chance to make a first impression" 

I was about to join my first job ever and the more I thought about my joining, the more it was about making that perfect "first impression". You know that nervousness, that anxiety that surrounds you when you are about to venture into something new, something different...you don't want to make any mistakes. 

Its been exactly a month since I joined, an eventful month indeed. So much has changed, yet so much is exactly the same. I have un-learnt and re-learnt few things as well. But one thing I know today for sure is that "first impression is never the last impression. For me it has changed practically for every individual I had met in this one month. 

First impression is never about what a person actually is, it is always about your perception of that person. Any human is such complex a character that the ones that are so very close to him, even they fail to understand him at times. Humans are designed to be a complicated mix of emotions, feelings and characteristics. They are bound  to follow a random behavioral curve. How can then, we be so quick with our judgement about a person, and at times take decisions based on those quick and at times false intuitions. 

Infact most of the times, we form this impression, by comparing the other person with our own self. the farther he is from our own ways and means of evaluating things, the lower is the impression. 

Well all this doesn't really mean that stop forming any image of a person in your mind in the first meeting itself, that's just so inevitable. But yes, we must give enough space and chances to a person to reform that image and show his true self, that might just be far more better than what you think he was!!!